Love vs. Beliefs: Can Opposites Date? Epiosode 485

On the show, Niall opens the phone lines to discuss a dilemma sent in by a listener who has started dating a man she really likes—handsome, kind, and a perfect gentleman—but with one big issue: their values couldn’t be further apart.

She describes herself as progressive and pro-choice, while he’s a devout Catholic, strongly against abortion, skeptical of immigration, and openly disapproving of same-sex relationships. Despite their differences, she says they still get on very well, but she’s terrified these clashes in values will come between them. Should she stick with someone who treats her so well, or is this a red flag that will only get worse over time?

Callers weigh in with strong views on both sides:

For giving it a chance: One caller argues that respect matters more than agreement—that if he treats her well, listens, and doesn’t try to force his beliefs on her, then the relationship could work. “Plenty of couples disagree on politics or religion,” she says. “What matters is kindness and compromise.”

Against pursuing it further: Another caller warns that fundamental differences in values will eventually cause deep conflict. “It’s fine now while they’re dating,” he says, “but what happens when kids come along? Or when she wants to support her gay friends and he can’t accept it? That’s not a small disagreement—it’s their entire outlook on life.”

So what do you think—can love conquer such deep divides, or are some values too important to ignore in a relationship?